What good is the warmth of summer, without the cold of winter to give it sweetness.
John Steinbeck
A few weekends ago my husband and I were happily admiring our new toys that had arrived in the post. Mine was a bunch of gorgeous artificial tulips while Kevin's was an apparently very clever new battery charger. I kid you not, he was enthralled with it! It has an electronic thing-majigy and can charge different size batteries, amongst other things that my mind simply cannot retain to repeat.
You may well wonder how on earth we've survived 20 years together? In spite of our differences we have some things in common and together we make a great team. When the basil we originally planted in the red-polka-dot-tea-cup in the kitchen looked increasingly sickly, I got the brilliant idea that tulips it should be. Kevin hunted them down on eBay and in the process discovered his dream battery charger. When they arrived we were both as happy as Larry.
The thing about differences in relationships is that when it works, the sum truly can be greater than the parts. Left to my own devices, I would never have looked for tulips on eBay. Without me, Kevin would still be charging batteries one size at a time and would never have had the joy of a 'tulip-filled-red-polka-dot-tea-cup-planter' in his life!
However, getting to the point where your rough edges work for, not against you can take time and effort. Differences of opinion often has us scratching either our heads, or each others eyes out, until we learn to love the things that drive us mad. In the early days of our relationship, Numerology helped me see our differences in a new light. It not only helped me understand myself, it also gave me an inkling of how Kevin experiences his world.
Getting a glimpse of the inner workings of your core nature doesn't require Numerology to happen. All it really needs is curiosity, the curiosity to wonder why. Why do we do what we do? Why do other people do the things they do?
Taking my own advice, I just went to peer hopefully at the battery charger and I have to be honest, it does absolutely nothing for me. But somehow, looking at it and remembering Kevin's enthusiastic description of all it's clever parts, warms my heart. And that is all it takes. A moment to open your heart to what you don't understand and will probably never get. A moment of openness to ourselves, to others and to this beautiful world we live in.
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Your tulip planter sounds adorable btw :)
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