Monday, 01 July 2013 20:38

Positive Thinking: Method or Madness?

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Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.
Lao Tzu

Recently I have been pondering the whole topic of positive thinking. Is it fact or fiction? Helpful or harmful? And the bottom line for me, does it work or not? Being insatiably curious I decided to run a personal, and please be warned, very unscientific experiment to see what conclusion I came to. The thing about a daily meditation practice is that some days I love taking the time to settle and sit quietly and other days I would really rather swallow razor blades than be locked in a small room alone with my wayward mind. So daily meditation was the chosen subject and the experiment would be to see how positive or negative thinking, about meditation, influenced the actual experience of it.

On Day 1, I dug out my recipe for success and cheered my way into the session, reminding myself how beneficial meditation is, how good I would feel afterwards and I sat down feeling enthusiastic and relaxed.

On Day 2, I grumbled my way onto my cushion thinking about how hard it was to be me, how I unfair life was and all the thoughts that make up my personal recipe for failure.

The results were surprising and not at all what I expected. Day 1 was a good day, I was in a good space and positive thoughts lead to positive action and a happy outcome. Day 2 however was very interesting. The simple act of doing something that I believe is beneficial, even though I didn’t feel like it, got me feeling good about myself! Hmmm, food for thought! The negative expectation I had about how awful it would be did not influence the actual experience.

The Buddhists believe that mind is the master, and body and speech are the servants. In order to change our words and actions, we therefore need to change our minds and thoughts. In the experiment above, what struck me is that the real positivity came from morality, from honouring what was right and beneficial.

So here is my conclusion, it is not so important whether positive thinking is method or madness, what's important is whether, with positive thinking, there is method in your madness!

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# Jennifer L 2016-07-25 07:14
I love positive thinking within balance of course. Being aware of the negativity is key but not allowing it to rule our lives is also key.
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# - Soul Sense Coaching 2016-07-25 09:43
Well said, Jennifer, it's all about the balance. The moment we get too extreme is when the trouble starts.
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# Anna 2016-07-25 04:54
Positive thinking absolutely works! I think it can definitely impact the entire day. Great post! XO

Anna || A Lily Love Affair
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# - Soul Sense Coaching 2016-07-25 06:45
Thanks Anna, It's a wet and cold Monday morning here and this is probably the perfect time to adjust my attitude to tackle the day with a bit more enthusiasm.
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# Brian 2016-07-23 23:12
It's interesting how many movies quote Tzu in one way or another.
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# - Soul Sense Coaching 2016-07-25 06:42
Lao Tzu has such wisdom, I love his quotes but that's interesting that movies quote him too. I honestly don’t think I had noticed that.
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# Via Bella 2016-07-23 22:28
I actually think it does help. Not that i am Buddhist, but when you start the day off bad, it can seriously impact your day- whether you think or not. I think you have to try the experiment for more than a few days too to see the results. It's like losing weight- doesn't happen over night.
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# - Soul Sense Coaching 2016-07-25 06:40
No, it does not happen overnight! What the experiment did for me, was show that there is much more to being positive than just cheerleading. But, you are quite right, Bella, training our minds to see what is good, takes much, much longer.
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# Laura H 2016-07-23 21:20
The mind is definitely the most important thing in trying to think positively. It can be difficult to change thought patterns though.
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# - Soul Sense Coaching 2016-07-25 06:36
My experience has been exactly that, Laura, patterns of thinking are so instantaneous and automatic that changing them, while doable, takes concerted effort. And with the inbuilt truth detector most of us have, we have to mean what we say if we are to believe our positive thoughts.
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# Karla 2016-07-23 11:33
For many people, including myself, negative self-talk (as Ivan put it in his comment) is what causes anxiety problems. Replacing negative thoughts with positive ones (as long as they are truthful) has a major impact.
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# - Soul Sense Coaching 2016-07-23 14:27
Excellent point Karla. In coaching, it has surprised me how often a negative relationship with your self is the core issue underlying a client's sense of being stuck. If you can change that, everything else follows.
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# Mardene Carr 2016-07-23 10:11
Positive thinking does work. It is so very important for us to practice this as well as positive speaking
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# - Soul Sense Coaching 2016-07-23 14:24
One of my biggest challenges is paying attention to my speech. words have so much power and a lasting impact. Thanks for mentioning that, Mardene.
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# Elizabeth O. 2016-07-23 05:15
Positive thinking is very beneficial, to be honest ever since I realized that I should start having a positive mindset, things have been looking better. I am less sad and it's easier for me to appreciate things that are coming my way.
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# - Soul Sense Coaching 2016-07-23 14:17
it's great to hear that, Elizabeth. It's amazing how far reaching the impact of appreciation can be. Attitudes have such a powerful effect on how we experience our world.
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# Marsha 2016-07-22 21:34
I'm definitely a believer in the power of thinking positively. For me, the law of attraction is very much in play. I think that if you did something on day 2 that was beneficial, that was enough to make a change in your day vs you continuing to grumble all day. Keep thinking and acting positively!
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# - Soul Sense Coaching 2016-07-23 14:14
Luckily, happiness seems to be quite infectious, Marsha! The more you have the more you get.
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# Michelle 2016-07-22 17:06
When I find myself thinking negative thoughts, I exercise. Taking care of your physical and mental health will provide you with more energy to focus on positive thinking.
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# - Soul Sense Coaching 2016-07-22 17:44
Excellent idea, Michelle, exercise is such a good way of changing your state amongst all sorts of other benefits.
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# Ivan Jose 2016-07-22 15:58
I just read today that one of the traits of highly successful people is the ability for positive self talk.
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# - Soul Sense Coaching 2016-07-22 17:43
I can believe that, it must improve your resilience no end!
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# Mihir 2016-07-22 14:43
Be positive rightly said ☺
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# - Soul Sense Coaching 2016-07-22 14:58
Thanks for stopping by and commenting, Mihir.
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# Debbie Gilbey 2016-07-22 13:06
Positive thinking massively has an impact on your day. If I have had a bad morning, the mood seems to stick with me all day, even if the day takes a more pleasant turn. There is no harm in occasionally thinking about the negatives as these things help us grow.
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# - Soul Sense Coaching 2016-07-22 14:58
That's a good point Debbie, it brought to mind the saying, "what we resist, persists." The trick seems seems to be more about knowing when to draw the line, even too much positivity can be quite harmful when it is ignoring very real pain.
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# Meg 2016-07-22 13:01
BE POSITIVE! I agree
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# - Soul Sense Coaching 2016-07-22 14:58
Thanks for stopping by, Meg.
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# Carole 2013-07-05 16:42
I find positive thinking does work. I have experimented on this myself and find when I consciously think good and positive things life tends to pick up and be happier and more productive. However.... I do find it is difficult to maintain and I tend to slip back into familiar patterns. It seems to be a conscious thing to constantly keep in a positive state. Maybe it would become habit if I could keep it up for any length of time.... maybe that is another experiment....
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# - Soul Sense Coaching 2016-07-23 14:22
What you have said is so true, Carole. Old habits are hard to break and can take forever to change.
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