Ever found yourself tossing a coin to help make a major decision in your life? Best of three, maybe? I certainly have and on more than one occasion. My mom clued me in on this lovely little shortcut many years ago. In her 'crazy wisdom' sort of way, she reckoned that in that split second as the coin is falling, you find yourself screeching internally, "Please be heads, please be heads, please be heads" and voilá, your decision is made!

There are some very lucky / annoying people in the world who seem to know exactly what they want. They get out there, follow their inner compass and achieve all sorts of wonderful things. Unfortunately, the rest of us are a bit more like Alice in the quote above. We come to a crossroad in life and find ourselves scratching our heads wondering how on earth we are meant to know which way we want to go.

So how do we start uncovering what it is we really want?  Years ago I read an article on decision making in which the author suggested three things: Ask yourself, does this action take me in the direction I want to go? Contemplate your options and certainty will arise, and finally, having made a decision don’t look back. At the time I was like ja, no, well, right, if I could do that I wouldn’t be stuck! Sadly, I can't remember the author's name but what he said next made a lasting impact. He said that by not looking back and doubting your choices, you start to build trust in your ability to make good decisions. It becomes a self fulfilling prophecy and over time you get better and better at it.

Self-doubt is crippling. By constantly questioning ourselves and our abilities we shrink our world and forget what amazing creatures we actually are. We are capable of achieving so much but only if we believe it is possible. After years of doubting yourself, it takes time to build trust and start allowing the voice of your dreams, (you know, the one you usually tell to shush) to come back to life. Living with enthusiasm is a choice, it is a decision you make and keep making through out the day, every day. It's not an easy journey but it is one, I hope you choose to make.